If you’re a parent of a school-aged child, chances are you’ve already heard the question: “When can I get a phone?” Maybe you’ve felt that familiar tug-of-war between wanting your child to feel included and wanting to protect them from growing up too fast. You’re not alone.

Smartphones are woven into almost every part of modern life, but that doesn’t mean kids are ready for them early on. Understanding the risks, knowing when to say “not yet,” and setting clear boundaries can help your child build a healthier relationship with technology from the start.

Why Waiting Matters

Many parents assume getting a phone is just part of growing up. But research shows that kids who have smartphones too early are more likely to struggle with anxiety, distraction, and even social pressure. Smartphones open doors to group chats, social media, and constant connectivity before most children are emotionally ready to handle them.

Groups like Wait Until 8th are encouraging parents to pause before handing over that first device. Their message is simple: delaying smartphones until at least 8th grade gives kids more time to develop confidence, social skills, and independence without the added stress of constant digital life.

Smartphone-Free Childhood is another organisation whose mission is to inspire and empower parents to create a smartphone-free childhood for their kids. Their powerful public service announcement highlights the adult-sized responsibility we are placing on children long before they are ready.

When Should Kids Get a Phone?

There’s no one-size-fits-all answer, but here are a few signs your child might be ready:

• They understand and follow rules consistently.
• They can manage responsibilities like homework or chores without reminders.
• They show good judgment and are able to talk openly about difficult topics.

Even if your child seems ready, it’s okay to start small. A basic phone that only calls and texts can help them learn responsibility without giving them full internet access. Remember, introducing technology gradually is not holding them back. It’s setting them up for long-term success.

Setting Healthy Boundaries from the Start

Whether you’re waiting until 8th grade or planning to introduce a phone sooner, clear boundaries are key to smartphone safety for kids. Here are a few tips that make a big difference:

1. Create a Family Tech Plan

Work together to set screen time limits, agree on where devices can be used (like common spaces only), and outline expectations for how phones should be used. This builds trust and keeps communication open.

2. Keep Devices Out of Bedrooms

Sleep and privacy matter. Keeping phones out of bedrooms helps kids rest better and reduces the temptation to scroll late at night.

3. Model Healthy Phone Habits

Kids learn more from what we do than what we say! Try to model mindful phone use by putting your own device away during meals, conversations, or family time.

4. Talk About Online Safety

Discuss topics like privacy, respectful communication, and what to do if they see something upsetting. Make sure they know they can come to you with questions without fear of getting in trouble.

A Smartphone-Free Childhood Is a Gift

It’s easy to feel like the only family saying “not yet,” but more parents are choosing to delay phones than you might think. By waiting, you’re giving your child the gift of time. You are giving them the time to develop friendships in person, to explore the world around them, and to build confidence without constant comparison.

Parenting in the digital age is full of tough choices, and you’re doing your best to make thoughtful ones. Whether you wait until 8th grade or simply set strong boundaries early on, your efforts will help your child build a healthier, more balanced relationship with technology.